Everyone’s problem has a certain role in life and serves a specific function, so it is incredibly important to understand that role and define it well, in order for the problem to be solved. In that way, the person with the problem can continue to live her life with a feeling of being satisfied and completed. Sharing stories, we are constantly feeling overwhelmed in the turmoil of interpersonal relationships. Sometimes it is very hard to find your own way through chaos and create a path which leads to more functional responses to stress. Instead of happiness and satisfaction, very often our inner space becomes a fertile ground for bitterness, fear, anger, despair and lethargy.
Using his professional knowledge and experience, a psychotherapist might help you to find your own way in dealing with everyday problems, big or small, and to adapt to ever-changing life circumstances. The psychotherapist and the client will together arrive at the point where they can creatively imagine new behavioral experiments which are derived from deep meanings of the person involved in these experiments.
Gradual controlled change is a key ingredient of every successful therapeutic relationship. That kind of change is fairly different from changes that spontaneously occur in our everyday lives. The safe context of the therapy room offers a secure space where the client can express her emotions and understand herself in a new way. Also, changes happen step by step, with mutual understanding and approval of both therapist and a client. In that way, potential risks associated with sudden changes and impulsive decisions are minimized, because with gradual elaboration of certain behaviors we can open the door to changes that are beneficial for the personal development of a client on psychotherapy.
Vladimir Mušicki, PhD 